tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4819722186267743707.post6051825266539771728..comments2024-03-25T18:30:16.490-04:00Comments on Organized Chaos: Two Words That Transformed My Behavior ManagementElizabeth Caldwellhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12042281726294433770noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4819722186267743707.post-12728661177779488122018-05-07T05:31:47.687-04:002018-05-07T05:31:47.687-04:00Yes, absolutely! But they need to be in their rati...Yes, absolutely! But they need to be in their rational mind when you ask. If they're still very upset/ emotional I'll tell them I want to know what happened but I want them to have a chance to calm down before they explain, and I'll ask them to go sit somewhere quiet to calm down first.Elizabeth Caldwellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12042281726294433770noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4819722186267743707.post-48011536204956269872018-05-04T01:01:06.665-04:002018-05-04T01:01:06.665-04:00Does that work for middle school aged students as ...Does that work for middle school aged students as well?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4819722186267743707.post-38143509151114722222017-12-09T04:21:07.144-05:002017-12-09T04:21:07.144-05:00Absolutely! That is so true.Absolutely! That is so true.Elizabeth Caldwellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12042281726294433770noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4819722186267743707.post-4559368940724512962017-12-07T18:23:06.615-05:002017-12-07T18:23:06.615-05:00it's also important to give plenty of processi...it's also important to give plenty of processing time. i have found with my son who is 12 and has severe anxiety that he needs time to process what i'm asking when he is in an elevated state. don't rush the conversation if you can help it.Katiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15946354106385702539noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4819722186267743707.post-82986379622956672132017-05-09T20:57:27.599-04:002017-05-09T20:57:27.599-04:00Absolutely! I had 2 such conversations today, wher...Absolutely! I had 2 such conversations today, where I had to wait quite some time for a response. Sometimes I have to stop waiting to address the rest of the class, so I'll tell them to think and I'll come back in a minute, which still seems to work. Usually when I come back I find they've been thinking carefully about their answer. Elizabeth Caldwellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12042281726294433770noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4819722186267743707.post-44940872387768998472017-05-09T09:07:44.262-04:002017-05-09T09:07:44.262-04:00It's so simple isn't, it, yet so profound....It's so simple isn't, it, yet so profound. I think the most important thing you said came after the "what happened"... WAIT. When I was an inexperienced teacher, I felt like I had to admonish the behavior and talk TO the children. We often (myself included) forget that the words and thought processes take time to spill out and it happens in the stillness and quiet of our response. Oh, it is so hard sometimes to be patient when 20 other kids in the class are waiting for you to return from outside the door, or to be still in that moment of discomfort. In the end, the child knows that we care by quietly supporting them; listening and waiting for a response. Aimee https://www.blogger.com/profile/01284155132817242419noreply@blogger.com